Do you need to forgive?

 

If you want your life to change dramatically, you need to forgive some people in your life. By holding anger for another person, you remain a victim. Make a list of all the people you feel have hurt you and start letting go by forgiving each and everyone.

Start with your parents: If you feel that your parents made some mistakes in their parenting skills, remember that they did the best they could. They gave you the gift of life. Be grateful for that. By not forgiving them, you become a dysfunctional adult keeping negative feelings alive.

Siblings and close personal relationships: Don’t waste years on anger that can affect your self-worth. Remember that you are partially responsible if the relationship did not work. By looking inward, you will start taking responsibility for how you feel.

 

Go through your list and start forgiving everyone else that has hurt you in any way. It could be at work, in business, in your social circle, at school. Hold each person in your thoughts and tell them that you forgive them and wish them well. It might be easier for some. For the difficult ones, you may repeat the process each time you think of them. Over time, you will have no negative feelings for them anymore.

 

Yourself: Set yourself free by forgiving your past mistakes. Only you can do that. And it is important to do this if you want to move forward and attract abundance in all areas of your life. Realise that when you did these things, you were not as wise as you are now. Let go of the past, affirm that you are a child of the Universe and that you are good.

 

A good affirmation is: “I forgive myself completely.”

 If you hurt someone and feel bad about it, you can always apologise, say you are sorry and move on. If someone hurt you, here are two possible actions to take:

 

1.      You write three letters. In the first one, tell the person that they have hurt you and how you feel about it. In the second, you write a response letter in which the person tells you they are sorry for what they did. In the third letter, you write back forgiving them for their action and wishing them well. When you have finished writing the three letters, tear them up and throw them away or burn them.

2.      Write the following statement 77 times for 7 days: (Don't laugh. Try it. I did and it works.)

 

·         I                        (your name) forgive                           (the person’s name) for everything.

Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. Forgiveness does not mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you and it does not minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act.

Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with your life. Forgiveness leads to healthier relationships, greater spiritual and psychological well-being, less anxiety, stress and hostility.